Hi, I’m Jessica! The creator of Securely Her

I’m a licensed therapist, private practice owner, wife, mom, and fellow cycle breaker.

I’m so glad you are here!

I help women understand what they inherited, heal the patterns they learned to survive, and create healthier relationships, motherhood, and families moving forward.

For years, I’ve worked with women who feel overwhelmed, triggered, anxious, disconnected, or stuck in patterns they can’t seem to change.

So often, they come to me believing they’re failing.

They’re too reactive.
Too sensitive.
Too anxious.
Not patient enough.
Not doing motherhood “right.”

But underneath those struggles, there is often a much deeper story.

The way we learned to handle emotions.
The roles we took on in our families.
The needs we learned to silence.
The relationships we learned to navigate.
The ways we learned to stay safe, connected, or loved.

And motherhood has an incredible way of bringing those old patterns to the surface.

Like many women, I entered motherhood expecting to learn how to raise my daughter.

What I didn’t expect was how much motherhood would invite me to continue healing myself. I also didn’t expect to realize how much of me still needed work or things I thought I’d “worked out”, came rushing to the surface.

However, through all of that and in some of my hardest moments, has come some of my greatest growth —the moments that exposed old fears, unmet needs, and patterns I knew I wanted to do differently.

And that experience has only deepened the work I was already passionate about doing with women.

Motherhood doesn’t just raise children.

It raises everything within us that still needs healing.

And while that can feel incredibly hard, I also believe it can become an invitation.

An invitation to understand yourself more deeply.

To heal what you’ve carried.

To learn the emotional and relational skills you may never have been taught.

And to intentionally create something different for yourself and the people you love.

That is the heart behind Securely Her.

My Experience + Training

JESSICA RIX, LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker in California

USC Graduate
Nearly 15 Years in the Mental Health Field
Certified in Perinatal Mental Health
Private Practice Owner (Jan 2020 - Present)
Specializing in Women, Motherhood, Relationships & Generational Healing

I’ve spent nearly 15 years in the mental health field, with much of my private practice work dedicated to helping women navigate anxiety, childhood wounds, family dysfunction, relationships, motherhood, boundaries, emotional regulation, and generational patterns.

Over the years, my training and experience have taught me that meaningful change often requires two things:

Understanding why we became who we are—and learning the practical skills to do something different.

That’s why my approach is integrative. Rather than relying on one framework, I pull from different evidence-informed approaches depending on the woman sitting in front of me and what she needs.

Frameworks that inform my work

Attachment-Based Therapy
I use an attachment lens to help you understand how your earliest relationships may have shaped the way you experience safety, closeness, conflict, needs, trust, and connection today.

Emotionally Focused Therapy
This helps us look beneath behaviors and reactions to understand the deeper emotions, needs, and relational patterns driving them—and create healthier ways of connecting.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) + Parts Work
I love parts work for going deeper. It allows us to understand the younger, protective, wounded, or overwhelmed parts of ourselves with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment or shame.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
DBT brings the practical side of healing into the room with tools for emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, communication, and navigating difficult moments.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
CBT helps us identify the thoughts, beliefs, and patterns influencing how we feel and behave—and practice healthier ways of responding.

My work is also informed by ongoing training in trauma, attachment, shame, emotional regulation, relationships, and perinatal and postpartum mental health.

Depth + Practical Tools

I believe healing needs both.

There is incredible value in understanding why.

Why your child’s big emotions overwhelm you.

Why conflict makes you want to shut down or fix everything immediately.

Why setting a boundary leaves you drowning in guilt.

Why you automatically people-please, overfunction, become perfectionistic, or feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions.

Why certain moments in motherhood seem to affect you so much more deeply than you expected.

Sometimes those patterns make a lot more sense when we understand where they came from.

But insight alone isn’t always enough.

We also need to know:

How do I regulate myself when I’m triggered?

How do I stay present when my child is dysregulated?

How do I communicate what I need?

How do I set a boundary and tolerate someone else being disappointed?

How do I repair after I lose my patience?

How do I build relationships that feel different from the ones I grew up with?

That’s the work I love.

Going deep enough to understand what shaped you—and giving you practical tools to create something different.

Because the goal isn’t to spend forever looking backward.

It’s to understand your story so you can choose how you want to move forward.

A Little About Me

Outside of the therapy room, I’m a wife, mom, and Northern California girl.

I was born and raised in Northern California and now live with my family in a small mountain town, where we’re attempting to slow down enough to enjoy the simple things in life. However, sometimes that’s hard to do in this season of life :)

I love being outside—hiking, mountain biking, exploring, and traveling whenever we get the chance.

I’m a workout and wellness enthusiast, a lover of strong coffee, and happiest when I’m moving my body, exploring somewhere beautiful, or spending time with the people I love. Prior to our daughter, my husband and I had the chance to take a year off to travel. It was such an amazing experience and I’m so grateful for it! That doesn’t really fit our schedule these days (or abilities), but it was an amazingly special time for the two of us.

And while I have spent nearly 15 years helping other women understand themselves and their relationships, motherhood continues to teach me, stretch me, and invite me to grow, too.

I’m not interested in pretending that healing creates perfect mothers, perfect marriages, or perfectly regulated humans.

I believe it creates something much more meaningful:

Awareness. Choice. Compassion. Repair. Connection.

The ability to notice an old pattern and choose something different.

The willingness to come back and repair when we don’t.

And the opportunity to create a family story that doesn’t have to look exactly like the one we inherited.

That’s what being a cycle breaker means to me.

The cycle can stop with you.

And healing can begin with you, too.

If you’re ready to understand what you inherited, heal what you’re carrying, and intentionally create what comes next, I’d be honored to support you.

You can book a FREE DISCOVERY CALL HERE!

I’d truly love to hear from you and see if my Healing Through Motherhood Program or 1:1 sessions might be a good fit for you.

With so much love,

Jessica